Families First
Everyone connected to the Armed Forces, whether serving, a veteran, partner, parent, child, or carer, deserves to feel seen, heard, and supported.
We understand the unique pressures that military life can place on families, and we’re here to offer compassionate, practical support that helps strengthen relationships, ease emotional strain, and empower every family member to thrive. Our support is holistic and person-centred, tailored to your individual situation and built around trust, dignity, and collaboration.
Relationships
Relationships can be deeply rewarding, but they can also be challenging, especially in the context of military life. Deployment, transition, trauma, and changing roles can all affect how we connect with our partners and loved ones.
At AFCHQ, we offer confidential support for individuals, couples, and families to help strengthen communication, manage conflict, and build healthier dynamics. Our trained relationship counsellors and peer mentors offer a safe space to explore your experiences, without judgement.
If you’re experiencing a relationship breakdown, or you’re worried about unhealthy or abusive behaviours, we will listen and help you explore your options. You’ll never be pressured to act in a certain way — our role is to empower you with the information, tools and confidence to decide what’s best for you and your family.
Abuse isn’t always physical. It can also be emotional, financial, coercive or controlling. Whatever you’re facing, we are here to help — with care, understanding, and discretion.
If you would like to talk to someone, or join our relationship peer support group, please reach out.
Children & Young People
Growing up in an Armed Forces family brings unique experiences, and sometimes, unique challenges. From school transitions to mental health pressures, children and young people in our community may need extra support to feel safe, heard, and supported.
We offer early intervention and advocacy for children and young people who may be struggling, in partnership with local schools, youth groups, CAMHS, cadet organisations and other specialist services.
Whether your child needs help adjusting, is facing emotional or behavioural difficulties, or you simply want guidance on how best to support them we are here for you both. Every child deserves to feel secure, understood, and connected, and we’ll work with you to make that happen.
Get in touch to find out how we can help.
Carers
Being a carer can be an act of love, strength, and quiet resilience, but it can also be physically and emotionally exhausting, especially when connected to Armed Forces life.
The Royal British Legion published findings in their 2021 report which highlighted that 2 in 5 carers had not received any support in the last two years, and worrying concerns over the impact to their mental and physical health.
Whether you’re a young carer, partner, parent, or friend supporting someone who served, we understand that the role can bring unique pressures, and you shouldn’t have to face them alone. AFCHQ provides a confidential space to talk, access advice and guidance, and connect with others in similar roles. We can help with:
- Emotional support
- Information about your rights and entitlements
- Mental health services
- Peer support networks
- Access to trusted external services
You deserve support too. Let us help you care for yourself, while you care for others,
FAQS
Got a question?
Who can access family support at AFCHQ?
Anyone connected to the Armed Forces community — including partners, parents, children, carers and significant others — can access our support services.
Is relationship counselling confidential?
Yes. All counselling is completely confidential. Your privacy and safety are our top priorities.
Can you support my child even if they’re not in crisis?
Absolutely. We offer early intervention as well as crisis support — so if your child is going through a big transition or facing small challenges, we’re here to help.
I’m not sure if I’m in an abusive relationship, can you still help?
Yes. If you have concerns, we’ll listen without judgement and provide support in a way that feels safe and empowering for you. You don’t have to be certain to reach out.
I’m a carer but have never asked for help before, is it too late?
It’s never too late to ask for support. Whether you’ve been caring for years or have just taken on the role, we’re here to help lighten the load.
Let’s take the next step together
Whether you’re a parent, partner, carer or child of someone who served, your wellbeing matters.